Don’t Wait to Live: Turning Pain into a Teacher with Stefanie Schaffer (Episode #98)

Making an amazing hand out of the cards you’ve been dealt can seem impossible. But today’s guest – Stefanie Schaffer – has mastered the process and shares insights we can all put in practice tomorrow. The “bad hand” she was dealt, was very bad: losing both her legs in a tour boat accident while on a family vacation at age 22. But, in just 4 years, she has recovered from one setback after another, and managed her responses with so much clarity that she has recently found herself modeling for Kim Kardashian’s company, traveling, writing a book, and finding perspectives…

This interview is a Part 2 to a remarkable conversation Stef and I had just two years into her journey. And I have to tell you that even today, when I look back on that conversation, I still get goosebumps. She made comments that seemed almost otherworldly in their wisdom and foresight. 

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[00:00 – 04:30] Opening Segment 

  • Live better lives with the cards that we’re dealt.

[04:30 – 10:10]

  • Stef’s story and what she has been up to in the past years.
  • Stef’s Bahamian vacation when she had her accident that changed her life.

[10:11 – 14:00]

  • The kindness of strangers.
  • Stef’s mother’s love for her daughter.

[14:01 – 18:00]

  • Being kinder than the moment calls for.

[18:01 – 20:40]

  • You learn to look at the bigger picture and you get better at it.
  • Choosing to work everyday to get stronger instead of wallowing in self-pity.

[20:41 – 24:30]

  • Modeling for the Kim Kardashian SKIMS line.
  • Inclusivity in the fashion world.

[24:31 – 29:50]

  • Talking to people with disabilities like they’re human.
  • Putting everything through the lens of intention.
  • Uncomfortable conversations are a learning process.

[29:51 – 36:00]

  • Not labeling things good thing or bad thing and just letting time evolve.
  • Time and memories are the most precious thing.

[36:01 – 40:50]

  • It is still a great world, it just depends on what you look for and surround yourself with.
  • Surround yourself with people who believe in you.

[40:51 – 41:55]

  • Just do what you can do.
  • It might be everything they need in that moment.

[41:56 – 45:00]

  • Random choices and how they make outcomes.

[45:01 – 47:55]

  • Being an observer.
  • Choosing to give your attention to your gains and not your losses.

[47:55 –  53:50]

  • Everyone has a story.
  • Forgiving is the strongest thing that you can do.

[53:51 –  55:17] Closing Segment

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